Our lives are played out minute by minute, day by day, week by week. Each of us has been given the same measure of time to live by and we have the same capability to make our own choices. This is both a freeing and terrifying concept. What are you going to do with your time?
Choosing love is a good starting place is you are ever unsure of where to start in your current circumstance. Love remembers. Love cherishes. Love takes special note. Love is filled with thankfulness.
Being an extremely introverted person I have a tendency to let life happen around me and not speak up. I am constantly thinking, but the moments I take my thinking outside of my head and into action take a lot of courage. I have to have a lot of forethought to be able execute plans, and to fully grasp what it is I'm doing, and why I'm doing it. Being consistent is tough because I must be persuaded beyond all doubt that what I'm doing is meaningful and right.
IF anyone reading this can resonate with these thoughts, I'd like to offer a couple ways to take actions towards loving those around you well... and remembering the good.
1) Be actively thankful. I can be a very pessimistic person because I think in worst case scenarios. This has and can overflow to my relationships. Being THANKFUL is a powerful way of keeping that glass full and your life's viewpoint positive. Write your thankfulness down. If you have children, write them notes that they can read one day about something you were specifically thankful for that day. Even on the bad days, you can be thankful that you recognize how you were not your best, and write down ways you want to do it better next time. God gives us grace upon grace and turning away from our mistakes is apart of that grace.
2) Practice becoming a good storyteller. Story telling does not come easily to the introverted. Story telling keeps the good things circulating, and develops identity for your children. They get to know how funny they are and can develop positive thinking as they develop the internal narratives + stories for their friends.
3) Calendar reminders. I have to give all the credit to my sister for this one. She puts reminders in her phone of sayings that are meaningful to her and keep her on track. Sayings like "You are made for more" and "I am with you always." (Matthew 28:20) Putting reminders in your calendar where you'll see them everyday are an opportunity to remind you of mindsets to help keep you from stumbling and getting caught up in attitudes or behaviors that aren't good for you. One of my recent favorites is the concept that God made the sabbath for me because He loves me and knows I need rest, not the other way around. All of God's commandments are for my own benefit, not to appease a law. How quick we are to deviate to our own demise. Guardrails on a road help keep us from going off the edge, and mental guardrails keep us focused on what's good for us so we don't hurt ourselves or those we love.
Taking photos with a motive to cherish the beauty you are enjoying in life creates a tangible way to remember the good. When I take photos I love the real emotion between the people who have relationships with one another. A smile from one spouse to another, a tickle from a mother to her child, a playful toss up into the air a dad gives his son... I don't know all that's going on behind the scenes of your lives during these sessions, but you do. And that's what is important to remember.
These photos are for YOU, and no one else. That's why I felt it was necessary to make a change in my policy to give these photos to you wholly. I used to have it all backyards and thought of the photos I was taking as something for me and my business. Really, the photos I am taking are for my clients and should always stay that way. I have an amazing privilege to be invited to capture your season and I never want to take that for granted. Relationships are greater than any sort of business model or sale.
That's the greatest treasure we ever get to have in life- one another.
"A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another."